How Aligning Yourself with Your Life’s Mission Unlocks Ultimate Freedom

So, I decided to allow my hair to do what it wants to do.  My hair loves to curl, my tresses love water, and I’m o.k. with that.

No more weaves, no more trying to get it to do what it naturally does NOT want to do, I am me, fulfilled and free.

Since deciding to embrace my natural curls I can truly say that a new door of freedom has opened up for me,  not just personally but professionally also.

I recently booked an opportunity to do  recurring group coaching sessions with upper level managers on a quarterly basis, adding to the growing list of clients that I serve.  Talent opened the door, confidence sealed the deal.

A new found confidence comes when you are your authentic self, and confidence is attractive.  You know it’s funny, I get more compliments now that I am rocking my natural hair, than I ever did when I wore extensions.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not anti-weave.  My decision to embrace my natural tresses was also a necessity.  All of that hair on my head was starting to feel like a wool hat in the summer time. So for me,  it just made sense to ditch the extra bundles and allow my own hair to breathe.  Who knows, when the weather turns cold, I may reach for one of those woolly weaves, but for now, I am happy, comfortable and FREE.

With personal growth comes change.  Certain things and behaviors fall away in order to make room for new and more productive ones.  Embrace your evolution.

Now before you assume that this post is all about hair, let me assure you that it is not.  I used that analogy because I think it’s a great example of how free we become when we are authentic and real.

I am a firm believer that there is no greater path towards ultimate freedom and prosperity than the path we were created to follow, our own unique purpose.

Sure you can work hard, doing something totally unrelated to your purpose, and you may even reap some benefit from it.  However when you are fully in your purpose, you don’t have to worry about working hard, because you are flowing in what comes naturally to you.

And that is the only way to experience ultimate freedom and fulfillment.

It is only when you connect to purpose, that you will begin to reap the rewards of your labor, in ways that will satisfy your every need.

How do you connect with your purpose?  Ask yourself:

  1. Who benefits the most from what I have to offer? Who am I called to serve?
  2. What talent or ability do I possess, that when I operate in it, I am 100% fulfilled?
  3. Where do I feel most comfortable and the least stressed?
  4. Why is it what’s important to me, important?
  5. When do I feel the most empowered?

Your purpose is your life’s mission.  You have everything you need in order to fulfill it.  Certain gifts may be lying dormant within you, but that doesn’t mean that they are not there.  You must be willing to allow your true self to be seen, be generous with your light.  Trust me, there is an audience waiting to benefit from what have to offer, and your truest riches and prosperity will only come when you say yes to YOU.

The Best Relationships You Will Ever Have Are With God, Yourself, and…

Your Tribe.

Sisterhood is a powerful connection.  When you have women around you who encourage and support you, you feel inspired and motivated to accomplish bigger goals.

Synergy is the communion of people who together produce a greater result, more than they could have individually or alone.

Your vibe truly attracts your tribe.  Like minded people always have a way of finding each other.  The encouragement and accountability you gain from a committed group of goal oriented women is powerful.

Sometimes you can’t find the support you need from family.  That doesn’t mean that they don’t love you, they do.  It’s just that sometimes those closest to  you can’t see the vision that’s inside of you. So, when you start to talk “crazy” as they see it, as your articulate your dreams and goals, family may try to talk you out of it. In their mind, they are protecting you, however you have to be convinced within yourself that the vision on the inside of you is worthy of your pursuit and energy.

Even the best of friends sometimes may not have our best interest at heart. Friends can sometimes be enablers of our own hidden insecurities.  Friends tend to take sides when you break up, or even when you want to be talked out of doing something that you may be afraid to do.

When you cannot find the group support that you seek, the best thing to do is to create it.   You don’t need a lot, or if any, money.  All you need is passion,  and a desire to find and join others who are on the same path. Use your influence to bring people together.

Here are a few things that you can do starting NOW to gather around yourself the support that you seek.

Start a club

Host an event

Launch a Facebook Group

Sponsor a Meet and Greet

The possibilities are endless…

Time To Tackle The Elephant In The Room – How to Conquer Fear

Have you ever been asked to make some sort of change, or do something differently?  Did the prospect of changing frighten you?  Did the thought of moving out of your comfort zone cause you some anxiety?  Well guess what.  That is actually a very normal initial reaction.  We get used to doing things a certain way and then when we are asked to make changes, it can be a difficult process.  

Let me reassure you that there is nothing wrong with you.  You are a human being, responding in a very human way.  When we find something that works for us, and we are suddenly faced with the possibility of stepping outside of our comfort zone, our first reaction is to resist, usually out of fear.

Our bodies respond the same way to excitement as it does to fear.  What happens chemically is really no different, whether we experience excitement or fear.  When we think we are afraid to change,  the reality is that we are excited about the possibility of thinking differently.  Our challenge then becomes to adjust our mindset to the reality that all change isn’t bad, and in fact some change is necessary.

Overcoming your fear is the first step towards developing the kind of  mindset that will propel you forward.  It takes courage to live your life in a way that embraces new ideas, new concepts, and new ways of doing things. Courage is the opposite of fear.  This is what fear sounds like:

“What if I fail”

“What if people won’t like me”

“I can’t, or I don’t have time/money”

Have you noticed what all of these fears have in common?  They require changing a self-limiting belief.  When we make the shift in our mind from a self-limiting belief, we open up a world of infinite possibilities.

When you shift your thinking from scarcity to abundance then you  will still believe in miracles.  I still believe that we have the power, and the potential, to tap into greater abundance and fulfillment in every area of our lives, if we are willing to make the necessary changes in our belief system.

So the next time you are tempted to fear, tell yourself, OUT LOUD, that you are simply excited about  all of the new and expanding opportunities of unlimited abundance and infinite potential that await you as you begin to step outside of your comfort zone.

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7 Reasons Why You Need More Sleep

Sleep helps you feel better but it goes much further than just getting more rest.

Studies show that adequate sleep improves your overall quality of life.  On average, anywhere between 8-10 hours of sleep helps to produce optimum results.

But even the best of us could benefit from an extra hour or two of quality sleep.

Here are seven compelling reasons why you should get more sleep:

  1. Sleep helps improve your memory.  When your mind is rested you tend to retain more information during the day.
  2. Sleep improves your physical health.  A 2010 study found that C-reactive protein, which is associated with heart attack risk, was higher in people who got six or fewer hours of sleep a night.
  3. Sleep helps to improve your creativity.  In addition to consolidating memories, or making them stronger, your brain appears to reorganize and restructure them, which may result in more creativity as well.
  4. Sleep helps to improve your performance.  By reducing stress, the quality of your physical and emotional performance increases significantly during waking hours.
  5. Sleep helps you maintain a healthy weight.  Researchers at the University of Chicago found that dieters who were well rested lost more fat—56% of their weight loss—than those who were sleep deprived, who lost more muscle mass. (They shed similar amounts of total weight regardless of sleep.)
  6. Sleep helps curb moods of depression.   A lack of sleep can contribute to depression studies show. A good night’s sleep can really help a moody person decrease their anxiety. You get more emotional stability with good sleep.
  7. Sleep is nature’s best beauty treatment.  A good night sleep helps to reduce bags under the eyes, and it gives your body time to recover from environmental damage and pollution.

How to get the best sleep every night?

Try aroma therapy.  Lavender essential oils have been known to induce feelings of relaxation and calmness.

Take the clock out of the bedroom.

Listen to soothing music to fall asleep to.

Create a spa-like space in your bedroom. Make it a place that you look forward to coming to at the end of each day.

So go ahead, get some ZZZZZ’s!

8 Fun Ways To Practice Self-Care

I am a firm believer in this statement: “When you work hard you should play equally as hard”

If you are like most people, you have a lot on your plate. Weekly there are things to do, work to be done, projects to complete, people to see, places to go, etc.

Here is a coaching question for you to think about.  Have you put YOURSELF on your to do list?

Too often, and especially for us women, we neglect to add ourselves to the most important things to focus on.  Somehow our own nourishment in the form of self-care seems to get pushed further and further down the list.

And for many this idea of talking care of ourselves first is often looked upon as being selfish, when nothing can be farther from the truth.

Say this with me..

Here are some ways you can begin to love and nurture yourself more, and you can start RIGHT NOW.

  1. Set aside time in the morning, before you start your day, to meditate and pray
  2. Listen to your favorite music and allow yourself to get carried away in the rhythm and song…dance, dance, dance
  3. Light scented candles around your house. Lavender is my favorite
  4. Treat yourself to a spa day
  5. Save money and plan for an upcoming shopping spree
  6. Plan a trip to another country.  Book a one way ticket now, pay for it, then book your return flight later. It’s cheaper that way. (just a little trick I learned)
  7. Practice saying NO to anything that gives you reason to pause. Say NO without feeling guilty about it. Period.
  8. Contemplate your next move in life. It may be to end a toxic relationship, or it may be to search for a new career.  What ever you need to give energy to, do it Start now.