Someone is tired. Physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually drained.
Today, take a break. Allow God & His word to fill you back up.
Stop picking at old wounds…
Stop rehearsing past pain…
Stop staring at closed doors…
You may have had your heart broken, join the club. You may have been told that your services were no longer needed on a job, join the club. You may have been turned down for an opportunity, most people have at some point in their lives.
What you have been through is no different than what most of us go through in life. You have not been singled out. Your situation is not unique. You live long enough, you will be hurt and disappointed.
It’s called life…
And nobody gets out of it, without going though a few things…
The thing that I’ve learned, and what I am continuing to learn about life is this…it happens to all of us.
No one is exempt from a broken heart. No one is immune to being let down. As long as there are people who exist in this world, at some point, they will disappoint you.
They may not always mean to, they may have the best of intentions in the world, but the reality is that people are human.
In our humanity, we are limited. In our humanity, we only have a certain level of energy and focus. In our humanity, we see things through the filter of our own experience, therefore our point of view is often limited.
But when we embrace the spirit that lives within us, God’s spirit, our point of view is expanded, and we are able to draw a circle wide enough to see beyond our own experience.
It is only when we yield to that spirit that we are able to forgive and move on. When we allow God to heal us, we can put the past where it belongs, in the past.
At the beginning of this post I shared three coaching tips to get over past hurts. I’ll go into greater detail now…
Stop Picking At Old Wounds
Wounds never heal if you keep picking at them. Remember when you were little, and you scraped your knee or had some child hood sore? After a few days, as with all wounds, a scab begins to grow over it. The scab is the protective layer that covers the wound, allowing it to heal. If you constantly pick at it, it delays the healing process. Rushing into something new, without allowing yourself time and space to heal, is like ripping that scab off. The wound bleeds again because it is no longer covered. In order words, get somewhere and sit down. Allow the process of time and space to heal your heart, and stop uncovering your wounded soul.
Stop Rehearsing Past Pain
There’s power in what you say. So instead of talking about the relationship that didn’t work out, or the opportunity that you missed out on, or the job that let you go, introduce a new conversation. Start to focus on your future. Put your energy towards becoming a better person, not for someone else, but for yourself.
Stop Staring At Closed Doors
Stop stalking their Facebook page. Stop driving by their house to see if someone’s “car” is in the driveway. Stop asking your friends about them, stop wondering if they miss you. Move the heck on! It does nothing but hurt you more to continue to look for what no longer exists. In the case of a job loss or missed opportunity, look for new ways to re-invent yourself. Brush up on your skills or learn some new ones.
You owe it to yourself to heal. Yes, healing takes time, so take all the time you need. Don’t rush the process, because you end up hurting more than just yourself, if you try to rush into something new too soon.
So with that, here are 10 Empowering Quotes that help you get over past hurts:
- Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying somewhere you don’t belong.
- Starting now, I shift my focus off of what’s gone, and I start to appreciate what I have to look forward to.
- There comes a day when you realize that turning the page is the best feeling in the world.
- My destiny is not tied to anyone who left.
- Moving on doesn’t mean the hurt never existed, it simply means that I will no longer allow it to control my life.
- Sometimes when things fall apart, they fall into place.
- Every moment wasted looking back keeps me from moving forward.
- Sometimes it’s hard to move on, but once you do, you realize it was the best decision you’ve ever made.
- You can’t start a new chapter in your life if you keep re-reading the old one.
- I was happy before, and I will be happy after.