Resilience is … Learning How to Re-write Your Life Story






I recently taught a powerful online course called Resilience – The Power to Bounce Back.  I shared some valuable lessons about what it means to re-define your life, even after disappointments, painful breakups, being fired, missed opportunities, and financial losses.

We’ve all experienced at least one or two of the things listed here. Some people you know may even attempt to label you based on what they’ve seen you go through.  Even though experience is the best teacher, don’t allow negative experiences to keep you stuck in the past.

Own the rights to your own story.  You can change it if you want, at any time.

You may have had some false starts, but you can begin again.

Made some mistakes?  We all have. Mistakes are just that “missed-takes”.  It means that you tried something new, something different, but you missed.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t try again.

Sometimes you go through things in life so that you can come out better on the other side of it.  Stop throwing a pitty party over your past mistakes, heartbreaks, and pains.  Certain things may have happened to you,  some of your own doing, others because of someone else.  None of that means that you have to stay in that moment in time.  None of it means that you can’t move forward and become greater because of it.

Re-write your life story.  Don’t just start a new chapter, begin a new book. That’s what tapping into the power of resilience really means.  It means becoming better, not bitter.  It means recovering well from, not giving in to, adversity.

Here are 5 power ways you can start over and begin the journey that leads to you becoming your highest self.

  1. Start each day with a decision to be happy.  Remember, that being happy is very personal, and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.
  2. Never stop improving.  Be committed to learning something new, a new language, a new skill, a new way of thinking.
  3. Become aware of yourself and don’t allow yourself to be moved by the opinions of others. Be confidence in who God created you to be.
  4. Know that while you can’t control someone’s negative behavior or opinion, you CAN control how long you participate in it.
  5. Stop wasting time trying to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

Remember that when people don’t know you as well as they would like to, they will resort to forming an opinion about you based on what they believe. That’s okay.  Let them leave it right there, while you go on and do great work, achieve your goals, and fulfill your purpose.

And even if what they say and believe about you is true…YOU have the power to re-write your life story, if and when you choose to, and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to do so.